LIFE 101 with Coach Cary Bayer

Life Lessons from my Cat

With everything cats teach people about life,
love, and grace, who are the real masters?

 

Each year, I make an annual teaching journey from South Florida to Woodstock, New York, and often gain insights that become a column. This time, I’m writing about a different journey—one of courage and trust that can make an enormous difference in the way you live your life.

The journeyer was my cat, Ananda (Sanskrit for bliss), who recently passed away after months of suffering from multiple cancers. I don’t know how much cats know about the medical conditions they’re treated for by the veterinarians hired by their "masters." (I put quotations around that word because, with everything cats teach people about life, love, and grace, I wonder who the real masters are.) I don’t know if Ananda knew she was dying, but she certainly withdrew from life. She lost interest in food during her last four days on earth, stopped licking us daily the way she was famous for, and stopped sleeping with us, as well. In the face of all her pain and nausea, she displayed an unmistakable courage, never once losing the grace and dignity that were her trademarks.

 

And then there was the trust

She trusted us when we had to force medications down her throat because we couldn’t put it in food since she had stopped eating cat food and even Bumble Bee Solid White Albacore tuna in water, which, in healthier days, was, for her, the cat’s meow. She also trusted us when we brought in a strange man with hypodermic needles and vials of fluids. He was a traveling Dr. Kevorkian who mercifully could put animals out of their intense suffering—but she didn’t know him from Adam.

Yet she trusted her body with him because we did, and she trusted us literally with her life. And so she lay there in the arms of my wife—the arms she leapt into 16 years before while escaping the ASPCA cage she’d lived in, to enter our lives. (She was my birthday present with a mission: bring joy back to my heart after a month of grieving my father’s death.) I brushed her body with the brush she loved, and the doctor administered the injection that sent her into the freedom of the Beyond, or what animal lovers call Rainbows Bridge.

What would your life be like if you suddenly starting living with courage and trust? What if you had the courage to go for what you truly wanted in your career, your relationships, and your spiritual life? What if you had the courage to speak your truth today and everyday?

What would your life be like if you trusted in the same Universe that beats your heart in your chest and breathes for you every minute of your life, whether you’re waking, sleeping, or dreaming? You don’t give a moment’s thought to your next breath because, at some level, you’ve surrendered to your Higher Power to take care of that for you. Imagine if you also trusted to live the life your higher Self and your heart are encouraging you to live.

As a cat, my late Ananda is said to have nine lives, but do you really know that you’ll have another one? So why wait until the end to live the life you were born to live? If you let my cat’s death inspire your life, please let me know, so I can whisper that to her in the other world.

She is hugely missed every day, but her legacy of courage and trust, of bliss and grace, and most of all, of unconditional love, live on in me. And that is already making a difference in my life and in the lives of many others whom I touch, so she is still making her beautiful presence felt on earth while she’s enjoying the delights of Rainbows Bridge.

 

 


Cary Bayer is a Life Coach who conducts a national private telephone coaching practice from his two offices: in the mountains of New York State in Woodstock (845-679-5526) and by the ocean in south Florida (954-788-3380). His personal growth seminars have helped thousands of people become happier, more prosperous, with their dreams coming true since the ‘70s when he became a teacher of Transcendental Meditation. He’s authored three dozen publications, CDs and DVDs about personal growth. His Breakthrough Coaching creates dramatic breakthroughs in your career, finances, and relationships. You can visit him on the web at www.carybayer.com  or email him at successaerobics@aol.com